tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14991800.post3647266648141955643..comments2024-03-19T03:26:55.671-04:00Comments on Natural Born Learners : Balancing opportunity and commitmentAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13181853187769838301noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14991800.post-83743004288836470312013-03-29T22:36:11.978-04:002013-03-29T22:36:11.978-04:00In that case, you would probably encourage a bette...In that case, you would probably encourage a better discussion with a less biased original post. ;)<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14991800.post-78593952053688928532013-03-28T12:14:18.841-04:002013-03-28T12:14:18.841-04:00@anon- thanks for your comment. Your suggestions a...@anon- thanks for your comment. Your suggestions are helpful. I must say, there is certainly no grudge i am bearing. It is more a discussion. What would other people do? Have they had similar situations? can they share their experiences? etc etc.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13181853187769838301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14991800.post-43608529977793304072013-03-28T11:34:06.052-04:002013-03-28T11:34:06.052-04:00I see a number of flaws in your article, the main ...I see a number of flaws in your article, the main flaw being the fact that you used the term "ditch" to describe missing the commitment to take up the new opportunity. <br /><br />Once committed to a group organization, it is your daughter's responsibility (and yours! as her mother) to follow through. Yes, it lets down the group everytime someone misses. The group can't play as well together, they will have to repeat a lesson the following week to "catch" up your daughter and morale is lowered. As Anonymous said above, the instructor certainly can't permit students to attend whenever they feel like it - what kind of group would it be?<br /><br />If you and your daughter felt that the opportunity was such a great one, why not get in touch with the director of the chamber group and discuss it with her? With advance notice and an honest discussion about how valid an opportunity you see this as being, you could have given your daughter the chance to learn to take responsibility for her actions. You could have given the director the chance to give her permission for your daughter to be absent, and the chance to give your daughter advance notice of what she would be missing and how she could catch up. <br /><br />What great life lessons you and she missed out on this time. Instead you have chosen to bear a grudge against someone who you have trusted to help give your daughter a music education for wanting to keep up that learning pattern.<br /><br />PS. The "prestigious guest" orchestra in question is not a prestigious one. Almost everyone who auditions is accepted, nobody practices regularly, and there are rarely proper sectional learning opportunities. This has been fact for over 40 years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14991800.post-50121373626478031892013-03-18T19:23:26.639-04:002013-03-18T19:23:26.639-04:00It sounds like Friday afternoon is a really bad ti...It sounds like Friday afternoon is a really bad time to have chamber rehearsal! And probably it would be helpful if there were some sort of policy in regards to other musical opportunities, instead of this business of what appears to be the director taking such things personally. But her dedication also sets a good example for your daughter.stephanie thomas berryhttp://themagicofhands.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14991800.post-54290260850453639922013-03-18T16:03:54.854-04:002013-03-18T16:03:54.854-04:00Yeah, be a good drone, never miss chamber for othe...Yeah, be a good drone, never miss chamber for other amazing (once in a lifetime) opportunities to play in better settings…….NotAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14991800.post-71090891543117778622013-03-18T13:57:30.237-04:002013-03-18T13:57:30.237-04:00Well, the instructor can't have kids just goin...Well, the instructor can't have kids just going off whenever they feel like it. What if all the kids did like your daughter? There wouldn't be an elite chamber ensemble without commitment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14991800.post-83183281502795708672013-03-18T10:30:30.688-04:002013-03-18T10:30:30.688-04:00@JMaltman- exactly! Thanks for commenting.@JMaltman- exactly! Thanks for commenting.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13181853187769838301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14991800.post-44768589365743238432013-03-18T00:09:32.648-04:002013-03-18T00:09:32.648-04:00I'm with you on this. If she was missing chamb...I'm with you on this. If she was missing chamber for something unrelated, then she'd be prioritizing something different. But she's still prioritizing her music, she'd just gaining access to some even cooler opportunities. The teacher should be proud, and just wishing they didn't have to conflict. Jamie Maltmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13241519280808826998noreply@blogger.com